"Formulate a list of the following points and planets so that you can quickly and easily look for sensitive romantic/love times in a person's life:
5.Ruler of the 7th House
6.Ruler of the 5th House
We will be looking for hard aspects to these points, as well as "soft" ones, in terms of transits and progressions. Hard aspects include the conjunction, square, opposition, semi-square, and sesquiquadrate. Soft aspects include the trine and sextile."
After much tedious math, I came out with this chart. However, now my brain has dribbled out my ears too much to try to see if any aspects are hitting those points. I may get back to this one later.
"What you really have to look for are progressions (Secondary Progressions) involving the angles, 7th house ruler, Venus, and any planets in the 7th.
It bears remembering that a certain percentage of your clients (or even you, yourself) do not really want a relationship. Many people have such afflicted 7th houses or 7th house rulers that, even as they obsess over having a relationship, their own resistance and fears will prevent one from ever getting truly started.
So your first step is to examine your client's chart for hir likely pattern of relationship.
Look at the whole chart, then examine the 7th house. Any planets in the first house are liable to make relationships difficult to sustain, because there is automatically more of a focus on the self, and not on the 'other'. A loaded seventh house is just as difficult, because it reflects someone who may be too reliant on the other, so that it is difficult to establish an equal give and take, or that the native is too willing to be in any relationship at all, or if the seventh house planets are badly afflicted, the native may not find anyone who lives up to hir standards.
So it's very necessary to assess at the outset what the likelihood is of your client's ability to establish a relationship. Afflicted 8th house planets can be equally problematic as well, because they'll indicate a disinclination to intimacy. The afflicted 8th houser might be prone to many short-lived, meaningless flings, but not psychologically willing to engage in an intimate, longterm relationship.
If you find these sorts of patterns in a client's chart, please refrain from blurting out, "Hah, you wish!". You don't know how much work your client has done in overcoming self-defeating patterns or fears."
Apparently, this makes me quite screwed, 'cause I have planets in ALL of those houses. ("Yeah, you wish, biyotch.")
"What you look for is exceedingly simple. You look for the aspects formed by the progressed planets and angles to either other progressed planets, or to natal planets and angles. Focus on aspects involving Venus, the MC and Ascendant, the seventh house ruler, and any seventh house planets. For example, a semi-sextile of p Sun to natal Venus can indicate the start of a new love. But it's the involvement of the *angles* that will show the major relationships. The progressed Descendant (calculated from Solar Arc Midheaven) aspecting *any* planet, can indicate a new relationship. Also, any progressed planet aspecting the natal Descendant can indicate a new relationship.
It's as simple as that. The p MC aspecting Descendant ruler, or Descendant, or 7th house planets, or Sun, Moon, or Venus, will also signal a probable new relationship.
If it is apparent to you that such an aspect will not occur for awhile (a few years), and your client is im- patient, it is time to do two things: 1) look at transits from the outer planets to the Sun, Moon, Venus, and 7th house planets (if any) and ruler, since these may indicate at least some 'relief' during the wait for the 'biggie', and; 2) look at the other things currently affecting your client's chart."
Yeah, I'm still screwed.
"It is more than possible that, when a client is obsessing over having a relationship when the time isn't yet ripe for one, that s/he is trying to escape other issues that are less pleasant and more pressing. These issues should be discussed if possible. For example, a client's parent may be ill or dying, or pressures at work might be becoming unbearable. These can be difficult issues that a client would wish to escape or evade."
I do have to agree: that bit is ENTIRELY TRUE.
Then there's the Venus Return. However, my brains are still dribbling out my ears, so I'm not even gonna cover that one.