I certainly can't disagree with that.
With Chiron very closely conjunct my Sun the lessons in pain through relationships started almost as soon as I started dating.
Amen. Who the hell are those people? God loves them and kisses their asses, I suspect. Alas, this pretty much defines 80% of my relatives, a lot of whom think I'm a freak.
Let’s see, yup, about 30 years later, and endless hours of study, both esoteric and psychological, lots of discussions with friends & lovers, I finally just hit the wall, surrendered, and THEN found my partner. To say I don’t comprehend how family members and friends met their S/O in college, married by about 25, and are still reasonably happy is an understatement!
The key that Lynn stressed in her article & I whole heartedly agree with is to understand one’s self. We need to figure out what our expectations are regarding long term committed relationships – the “unwritten contract”. What behaviors we expect of ourselves as well as those of our partners. What behaviors we can live with, and those we cannot . . . i.e., infidelity is out of the question for me. And the final piece of the puzzle is the most difficult . . . to surrender completely all expectations of ever finding someone."