I'm catching up on the Lindaland forums, including this thread on people who can't be without a relationship.
"But I realized that to be *truly* happy I just need that special someone. I know it sounds stupid and pathetic. But I can't help it. I just *need* to be in a secure relationship and feel loved. I mean, it's not like I'm always in a relationship or always looking for a guy I could date. I'm perfectly content being alone. I don't need a man to take care of my business. I can do this myself. But I'm not happy when I don't have that special someone. And I honestly can't see anything wrong about that."
"I felt so bad when I read your post. It does sound pathetic. But don't get offended please. Its just that to me we must be already happy then find a partner instead of believing that the relationship makes us happy. To me thats insane."
"True, we have to love ourselves first in order to attract someone else into our life. BUT sometimes people do love themselves but still they aren't happy ... You know, come to think of it, maybe "happy" is not the right choice of word here. I am happy with myself. But I feel kind of incomplete when I don't have someone in my life that I can give my love to."
"Example of happy but incomplete:
Couple months ago my best friend and I went to Bush Gardens and had the time of our lives, just like kids we run from one ride to the next, I was really happy, I forgot about the kids , work and everything else; I love him for that day, it was great; but there was a couple times while in line or walking I would look at him and wonder how much better would that day be if the guy I am in love with was there instead of him. In other words you can trick yourself into happiness and that is a way out, just like having people getting attached to material stuff or things to do so they will forget and be taken somewhere else(like Zala said) but at night when you lay down in bed and you hug a pillow instead of a warm body where you can feel you belong somewhere and there was a reason why you got up or you spent a couple hours making a great dinner etc that feeling you can not get on your own."