Your chart has significant challenges literally written right into
it. Your moon is in challenge aspect to the asteroid Chiron, a potent
symbol of issues that cry out for healing. Your Moon is opposite the
planet of your survival instincts, Mars, and Mars is also in challenge
aspect to Chiron. What this symbol says to me is that you are driven by
powerful emotions that are often at cross purposes with you own best
interests. In other words, you let your heart rule your head. While we
are often admonished to listen more to our hearts and less to our
heads, in your situation this is rather like doing too much of a good
thing. Why? Because Chiron is sitting there, challenging your heart and
your survival instincts to make some intrinsic changes in how you
How do you operate? With three planets in the sign of Leo in your
tenth house of career and public image, you like to work from center
stage. You take great pride in how you handle your life, and you can be
prideful in the choices you’ve made. You need the attention of others,
and when you don’t get it in the measure you feel you deserve you tend
to feel let down and even depressed. There is nothing sadder than a Leo
who feels that they aren’t appreciated. Certainly, in a situation where
you hauling all the freight, doing all the work in and out of the home,
taking care of the emotional, physical and financial work of taking
care of a family, there literally is not enough appreciation in the
world that is going to feel like you are getting what you deserve. Yet
you can, from the challenge from your Moon to your Uranus/Venus
combination sitting in the the tenth house close to your Sun, be quite
stubborn in insisting on keep on a course of action, even if it is
apparent that course simply isn’t working."
I have some of this myself, but mainly this letter reminds me of a friend of mine with two autistic kids and a similarly difficult life, with Chiron issues.
"What do Jupiter and Saturn signify in our birth charts? Do they rule
"malefic" or "fortunate" houses? Are they dignified? If Jupiter in the
nativity is retrograde, in Capricorn and rules the 12th house, then I
cannot expect him to bring me any luck. On the other hand, if I have a
well-dignified Saturn, I need not fear. Saturn is never pleasant,
that's not his nature, but when he is in form, he's extremely just and
fair. Then, we should take into account the sign the two transiting
planets happen to be in and how that sign resonates with our chart. If,
for example, the signs Virgo or Capricorn dominate in our chart or if
Saturn is particularly strong, it is inevitable that we dislike
Jupiter. Jupiter doesn't just shower us with gifts, but requires
something in return. And that is FAITH. Which is something the two
aforementioned signs lack. You have to believe that you deserve good
things to happen to you, that life can and should be easy from time to
time. I'm afraid that Virgos and Capricorns (I'm not talking about
individuals here, but about the energy of these two signs) generally
mistrust anything that isn't a direct result of hard effort. They tend
to be suspicious of anything that comes easy to them and they are
always looking for faults. From Jupiter's point of view however, that's
ingratitude. So, why should he bother? The fire signs, on the other
hand, appreciate whatever Jupiter offers them. They have a natural
enthusiasm, they willingly embrace life and hate difficulties even to
the point of laziness. When Jupiter comes along therefore, they are
thrilled. By contrast, if you have many planets in Cancer or in Leo,
then in all likelihood you are going to hate Saturn. Even if nothing
significant happens during a Saturn transit, it's still safe to say
that you are not going to jump up and down with joy. You may read in
the astrological predictions for your sign that this is a good time to
lose weight, for example. No, it isn't. Some of you may feel so
depressed that you rush to the fridge and devour everything in it. Your
friend the Capricorn, however, will manage to lose 40 pounds when
Saturn conjuncts his Sun."
I wouldn't say I'm a trouble magnet, but definitely weirdness/drama magnet. Yesterday was a surprisingly weird day for a weekday for me, between the stoners and the witches I was hanging out with. Today during lunch instead of hanging out in nature the way I have been doing, I took off to the bookstore (figured I should avoid the nature just in case) and went out to find a book for dealing with weird things. We'll see how that goes.
So, Henry: born June 16, 1963, Chicago, Illinois. This chart doesn't show a birth time, but I'd guess him to have an Aquarius ascendant, born 10:40 p.m., so that he has Uranus/Pluto in the 8th house and Jupiter in the 7th. Really, that guy SHOULD have that there.
North Node Aries: his life goal is to learn self-sufficiency (well, yeah, in spades), and to get away from his partnerships. Literally.
Saturn at 23 Aries, loosely conjunct NN: learning via hard knocks method.
Sun/Mercury/Venus/Mars all conjunct in Gemini (late degrees). Neptune in Scorpio quincunxes all that. Quincunxes have been described as a see-saw, and that seems to fit H&C's relationship to pining for each other.
He's of the Uranus/Pluto generation, it squares his giant conjunction and opposes his Pisces moon. This stands out to me as being his dead mom issues, unexpected death, an opposition in himself that he never got over.
Clare: born May 24, 1971, probably in/around South Haven, Michigan. I would guess Clare to be an Aries ascendant, 2:55 a.m., so that Uranus is in Libra in the 7th and her Jupiter/Neptune conjunction lines up in the 8th, and her Sun/Saturn/Moon are in the 2nd since that girl has money coming both ways. Seems appropriate to me.
Grand Air Trine- Mars in Aqua, Uranus in Libra, Sun/Moon in Gemini. Trines are supposed to be lucky, and I guess in some ways Claire has been. Money isn't an issue for her, and she met the love of her life at age 6.
Venus and Mercury conjunct in Taurus, quincunx Uranus in Libra. Sun/Moon trine Uranus as well. Big time Uranus for her in life, particularly with unexpected events with regards to love. When it comes to male sexual attraction, she prefers the unusual (Mars in Aquarius).
Jupiter/Neptune conjunction-- luck and pining. If I was guessing on placements I'd want to stick this in the 8th house of other people's money, since Henry's getting ahold of it is how she survives, plus her family's kinda loaded. Well, maybe second would work for that too.
Aquarius North Node with loose Mars conjunction. Aquarius tends to be a more independent sign as well, so it's also somewhat forced upon her.
Claire has Sun and Moon conjunct Saturn = hard upbringing with her parents.
Notable factors between the two: Henry and Clare are both Geminis, though their Gemini conjunctions don't line up. Strange. Oh well, they'd be pretty similar in their preferences. Henry thinks faster than Claire does with her Mercury/Venus being in Taurus rather than Gemini. Good thing this guy can think fast and lie if he has to, since he often has to. Venus in Taurus has loyalty, which Claire does, but it's tied to pining (Neptune) and unusual and unexpectedness (Uranus). I guess that fits for her, because on some level she likes that.
In the composite they have Venus/Neptune, Venus/Uranus, Venus/Pluto
Taurus (April 19- May 20)
I don’t think we can ever question the theme of self-esteem carefully
enough. First a simple definition: self-esteem is how we feel about
ourselves that influences every other aspect of existence, what we do,
how we feel, how we relate to others and how we judge our worth.
Putting it mildly, this has been a theme for you lately: specifically
that you seem to have two entirely different opinions of yourself, that
you try to maintain simultaneously. What tends to happen is that you
alternate from one value system to the other; one judgment or
evaluation to the other. Lately the split grows worse if you aim your
ambition upward; in a sense this inner division is revealed when you
aspire to something better than you currently have. This does make
sense; if you want something better you’re going to tend to evaluate
whether you deserve it or not. I’m here to tell you that one side of
the story is not inherently true. It was taught to you initially, and
you continue to teach it to yourself: this, through any experience of
guilt. If you experience guilt, you can be sure of one thing — you are
responding to someone’s early conditioning. You are playing back an old
tape that says you’re powerless; and it will help if you recognize this
fact and see if you can determine who put it into you. Then, take it as
a question rather than as a true statement.