If you're not relationship prone, you're not going to find true love, no matter what transits you have. I don't know why I'm surprised, really, since this should be a giant "duh" to me. I can go years without meeting even one viable prospect (and my creep magnetness is astounding).
Furthermore, having followed many clients’ and friends’ charts’ over
the past 40 years, I’ve come to believe that astrology isn’t the best
predictor of whether an individual will meet and commit to a partner.
HISTORY is a better predictor, and the astrologer who doesn’t get a
relationship history from the client is likely to prove inaccurate.
What I’ve observed is that there are relationship-prone people and
people who aren’t relationship-prone. The person who isn’t
relationship-prone could have transits or progressions that look ideal
for love and not meet a soul, much less a soul mate. Relationship-prone
people can have either the worst or the most piddling tranits for
romance, and they fall head over heels and hook up with a partner. Go
figure.
Let’s say you have this client you’ve grown fond of over the years.
She’s single and 30 and has never had a serious relationship, hasn’t
even dated for a good long while. So here she is again, and she’s
paying you good money to give her some good news in the romance
department. And you look, and by gosh if there isn’t Jupiter
transiting the 7th and something promising happening to Venus, so you
both get all excited, thinking this year is IT! So she comes back a
year later, and tells you she didn’t get so much as a wink from a guy
in all these months. And you have to admit, to yourself at least, that
there are moments when this job BLOWS, just like any other way of
earning a living.
Man, you'd think this woman knows me or something.
Anyway, continuing on to planetary aspects that fuck you for love... on to my usual favorite topic :P Any planet past Jupiter that's tied in to your Venus will screw you, apparently. Uranus means you want independence, Neptune wants merging/codependence, Pluto could go either way, and...
People with Venus-Saturn aspects are gravely reluctant to enter into a partnership for several reasons. For one, they would consider it a binding agreement
that entails a lifetime commitment and tremendous responsibility.
Second, they are extremely conscious of roles in general and the
traditional male-female roles of spouse and parent in particular, and
so in committing to a partner they would also be committing to a role
that they may or may not wish to fulfill.
Oh dear lord, that is true. I generally fail at gender in life (I'm pretty well divided between yin and yang planets), I'm not macho enough to be a guy and definitely not girly enough to be a woman, and I'm about as nurturing as a piranha. I'm all too well aware, having grown up in a more traditional family, that I'd have to conform to Wife Stereotypes, because everyone would expect me to take the guy's name and be the one who writes out every thank you note and clean and cook the dinner. Really, I want to be married, but to be the husband. I don't want to have to be the wife at all. Yeah, good luck with that...
Back on the not-me side of the equation, Libras are especially fucked because of all the outer planet transits that whacked their suns/Venuses upside the head for the last several decades. Lovely!