Taurus (April 19-May 20)
You have a right to be picky about who and what you want, but if that is true, you may as well be specific. You have a tendency to tell yourself what you don’t want rather than to affirm what you actually want.
That is certainly true. It's easier to figure out the no's rather than the yes's at times. Like for example, filling out my new manifestation list this month and trying to think of a way to say, "I'd like to borrow someone else's car for some driving practice, but NOT MY MOTHER'S"*, except you're not supposed to say "not." So...non-relatives...um... fuck, I never did figure out how to say "anyone but her" in this.
*My mother is insane and can't stop screaming at me while I drive. Hence why it took me 16 years to get a license...if my options are her or nothing, which they have almost always been...yeah. One month till I can get a Zipcar membership and do this myself, darn it.
The two sides of this equation — negating things and affirming things — are not equivalent values. Yes and no are both important, but yes implies making a choice, which is a commitment, and then following through on it. This, in turn, calls for a deeper level of self-awareness, and also knowing that you will live with your decision.
Yeah, this is an issue these days.
One more point: if you say no to something, that implies that you’re keeping your other options open. If you say yes, you are in theory passing by those other options (which is not usually true but many people believe it is). Much of your hesitancy comes from this one notion. In any event, I suggest you consider all of your options, and choose consciously from among them, affirming what you want. Know good fortune when you have it, and know good times when you’re in them.
Yeah, that's kind of what worries me: saying no to my current good fortune of employment before it says good-bye to me...seems kind of awful to upend the apple cart for something this vague! I know that odds are my employment will get technologized enough to get rid of me in a few years anyway, but still.
It may be little comfort to say things can always be worse, but it takes an open heart to know that you’re taking care of yourself, and that others have your best interests at heart. Sooner or later we all must learn that life is not about survival, even contrary to what plenty of people with a wine cellar would tell you.
Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 22)
There comes a time in everyone’s life when they must reconsider the notion of ‘friend’. This is a word used casually, lately reduced to a button and a statistic. I was going to say that a person is fortunate to have just a few friends in life; it’s worth remembering that there are many people who feel they have no friends, nobody they truly trust or can confide in. This is not an excuse for considering those who are in any way unsupportive, lacking in trust or who do not treat you with equanimity as friends. You will be in a pruning process over the next few seasons, when it will be natural and necessary to cull the people in your life and determine who is who. This will have a tendency to set you free to be who you are, since often, it is the expectations and past perceptions that others have of us that prevent us from expressing our true identity. If you ever find yourself in a position where being authentic means you’re unpopular, be grateful of that. Consider it a moment of clarity. The more truly you resonate with your inner being, the more likely you are to see and feel the presence of people you truly resonate with. There is a difference between antagonizing and not being afraid to be unpopular. It’s a fine line — but it’s definitely one you can see and feel. You have nothing to prove, only the right to exist as you are.