Worst. Smotherer. Ever.
"DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together eight years. I have left him twice because of his constant obsession with me. When he comes from work, if I am on the computer he gets angry and says I don't love him or want to spend time with him. He doesn't even like our children to be around if we are home.
(What?!?! You can't even have the kids around?!?!)
"I recently found out that one of the most important people in my life is going to die. When I told my husband I would be out of town at the doctor's with this person, my husband's first comment was, "I guess this means you aren't coming home tonight."
If I go away -- even overnight -- he calls or pages me nonstop, develops stomach aches, etc. Abby, we can be lying in bed with his hand touching mine, and if my nose itches and I move my hand to scratch it, I get, "Fine, then!"
I don't know what to do, but I can't keep on living like this. He always says he'll change, and for a little while he does. Then the cycle starts all over again. He has suffocated my love for him. But if I leave, he will tell the children (10 and 7) that it's all my fault and he wants to be a family. I don't know what to do. Do you think this relationship is salvageable? -- CAN'T BREATHE IN TEXAS"
DEAR CAN'T BREATHE: Not unless your husband realizes that he has a serious problem and is willing to get professional help for his extreme self-centeredness and insecurity."
Most men are insecure because they have a bad conscionce. Excuse my spelling. Besides most men who are insecure is because they are not happy with themselves, therefore they make everyone around them feel uncomfortable w/ their insecurities. I know, I've been married 7yrs or so. My husband Bob is the sweetest husband but he is very insecure w/ my past which I've let go long ago. But as he is a scorpio whom hasn't yet forgiven me for sumthing I did long ago. And for years he hasn't forgotten what I once was. So in other words, I'm to blame for his psycho ways because I put up with it.
Posted by: Jocabed Valdez | December 25, 2009 at 05:17 AM
Hello, I am Amit kumar ,This is the problem of myone of my relatives. their husband is little bit psycho. they have been married 4 year ago,they has a child of 3 year old, the problem is that her husband still not belive in his wife. According to him she some thing hiding from him, but her wife is so good and honest.ispite of that he not able to belive him and always is in mood of suspicion for their wife.
Sir, please sen the reliable solution for this.
For that I shall be very greatful to you.
Posted by: amit | August 14, 2011 at 09:03 AM