"The series might pull off this narrative if it hadn’t already proven to be a terrible way for two people to form a lasting relationship. Of the 15 completed seasons of The Bachelor, only three have led to long-term relationships, and just one of those couples remains together. (Incidentally, that Bachelor dumped his in-season pick and chose his now-wife at the “After The Final Rose” end-of-season special.) The Bachelorette, with a two-for-seven line, hasn’t done much better. While some of the difficulty can be ascribed to what happens when two fairly normal people get tabloid-level famous, some of the blame has to fall on series itself.
Given those time constraints, that means that the 25 contestants must be put in a situation to fall in love quickly. For the most part, that involves withholding the Bachelor from them as much as possible, creating a situation in which the very notion of alone time changes from a one-on-one date—an event so rare that it’s not even worth hoping for until halfway through the season—to asking to “steal him away” during each episode’s cocktail parties and group dates. In the early going, the competition this season wasn’t so much for Ben’s feelings as for his attention, which turns every small conversation into a watershed moment in the relationship."