"Can there be funny rape jokes? I think so. Rape jokes that make fun of rapists can be funny, the way slavery jokes that make fun of slave owners can be funny, but slavery jokes that make fun of slaves can’t (that’s a deliberately chosen comparison). And I think they can be funny when you present yourself as the victim, especially when you are generally perceived as a member of the dominant group. Make fun of the dominant group and you create positive change. Make fun of the targeted group and you reinforce the prevailing dynamic. If the prevailing dynamic is okay with you, then you’re, ya know, a moronical dickhead.
So. That’s what I think. As a person whose job entails trying to reverse rape culture (oy) and as a person who’s marrying a person who makes jokes for a living, and as, ya know, a person, I think rape is never funny, but rape jokes can be funny when they make fun of rape culture and rapists. But “wouldn’t it be funny if that chick got raped” and “that chick probably has been raped,” those just make fun of targets of systemic violence, which creates cultural permission for violence."