It's the return of Ask Willie D!
"Women don't like jerks, they like bad boys. I guess I'm sort of a refined bad boy. While I did exhibit some characteristics of being un-gentleman-like in my younger days, as with many songs, "I'm Not a Gentlemen" was exaggerated for entertainment purposes. The intent of the song was not for you to treat women like dirt; it was to not allow women to treat you like a doormat. Men fall for bodies, while women fall for personalities. Sure, a woman will sleep with Denzel Washington, but if he is boring and has no spine she will lose interest.
Women like challenges. They; especially the younger ones, want someone they can fix; which never happens. The good guy is dependable and steady while the bad boy is unpredictable and indifferent to her needs. She knows she could lose him at any moment, so she fights harder to prove she is worthy of him. The key for guys is adopting the bad boy traits that women love such as confidence and spontaneity and balancing the bad ones like cockiness and self-absorbance.
Love is not supposed to hurt. Love is not disrespectful. Love is not disloyal. Like men, most women don't realize that until later in life. I wrote "I'm Not a Gentleman" and Gangsta of Love" when I was 22 years old. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
Damn, man, if I had known you were going to act out the lyrics in my songs word for word I would have also told you to pay the note on my mortgage and buy me a fresh pair of Nikes twice a month."