"So now I've got to warn you that this is a pretty dangerous time for you to be committing to a guy who's ten years older, who will naturally want to guide you, be the mature one, reassure you, etc. I'm not saying you should dump him flat out. But if you see the slightest sign that what he really, really loves about you is your malleability, need for approval, need to be reassured, need, need need? And he calls you baby a lot and calls himself "Daddy" (It's a joke! Really!) and talks about how your body is sooo much better than his ex's body? (Which, who says that? What sick old Chester The Molester segment of my brain did that even spring from?) And he sort of seems to believe that his way of doing things is the absolute best way for everyone, and part of the problem with his bitch ex is that she could never just go with the flow—HIS flow? But you, you are so perfect and adorable and here's how I like my coffee and here's how I like my cock sucked, etc.?
But listen: IF you are a little wobbly and shaky and scared and needy right now AND he is a little controlling and he seems to think you're going to neatly fold your life into his and everything will be wonderful? And you should move to his side of town, into his house, and do things the way he does them? If all of that is true, and if the "honest" talks you have are actually him subtly herding your feelings and thoughts in tight little circles? Then I would be wary. And if he drinks too much, or smokes a ton of pot, and is maybe something of an escapist? That would make me wary, too.Don't disappear into this new guy until you know that you're not hiding from your own life. Focus on your life first, and keep him in the wings a little. (As in, maybe you could see him 2x a week and otherwise do your own thing?) If he's mature, he'll be fine with some space.
And you know what? If he is on the rebound, he will FREAK OUT about you spending less time with him. He will freak out and you'll really have to wonder if you want to hitch your wagon to his… stallion. Or his gently used engine."