I feel bad posting this because I should be heading off to improv myself now, but what I am doing? Blogging. You can guess what post I'm putting together again tonight even as I put these out. Gah. Shame on me. When will this end?!?!?!
Anyway, back to the article:
"It turns out my dedication to being a “cool girl” shot me in the foot. Nobody wants to date someone who’s not into it. Dating is expensive and exhausting. It’s not worth doing unless both people are invested.
I stopped worrying about saying something funny and instead, discovered the second universal truth of improv: communicating something — anything — that is true. For example: “I’m unhealthily obsessed with ‘Anne of Green Gables.’ ” “Going off ADD meds is liberating and crippling at the same time.” “I’m afraid that I’ll never have a functional relationship.” People relate to the truth. That’s what they find compelling. And that last statement? Yeah, that’s the type of vulnerability you can sneak into a scene without people realizing it’s about the real you and not just a character you’re playing.
In improv, you’re making it up, which is both always true and never true. Worried about being found out? That’s not going to happen. Instead, you’ll be met with either uproarious laughter or hushed attention as the audience thinks, “How does she know my soul?”
That’s exactly how people react when you say vulnerable stuff on dates. And I found that out during an epic year using everything I was learning in improv when I went out on dates. In that year, I dated more people than I had in the previous five put together."